In last week’s blog, I identified 3 dragons that fuel procrastination. These I have managed to silence completely and as promised, I will share with you how I have managed to do that. Firstly, let’s define procrastination in very loose terms – no dictionary def. When I procrastinate, it usually means I’m avoiding doing the things that I think need doing. For instance, when I have avoided picking the phone up to enrol in a course or seminar; or avoided setting off to lose that extra stone I have been dragging around for two years – you get the gist of what I’m saying. The main reason for procrastination, in my opinion, is born out of fear; a fear of humiliation, a fear of rejection and a fear of failure.
Firstly, according to the all the books on personal success I have read, we need to identify why we are fearful, hence I have named three reasons here, before we can set out a strategy to offer resistance to the fear. [I will be drawing from The Seven Decisions which is in the Book Review]. Consequently, a counter method of a fear of humiliation is to be authentic and honest. If you have been putting off picking up the phone to ask for a promotion or make a sale, ask yourself if you are being sincere about what you are communicating. If it is true that you are being sincere, then there is no reason why you should feel humiliated about making that connection -after all you’re not trying to short-change anyone. Present your true self and you will not have to worry about humiliation.
A counter for a fear of rejection is to know that some people have legitimate reasons for saying NO to you. Let’s say you are trying to make a sale and are told no. Think for a moment that that person genuinely has no need for your product; or perhaps she/he is going through some difficulties in their lives of which you may not be aware etc. It is most likely nothing to do with you personally that they are saying no at this moment. Finally, a counter strategy for the fear of failure: for most successful people, failure is considered as a temporary setback. Michael Jordan has been referred to as the greatest sportsman of all time and he has lost more games than he has worn. If you can learn from ‘failure’, you will be better equipped to deal with the situation next time around. Hence, temporary setbacks are better teachers than successes, if you think about it.
I suggest that you identify your fears and add to this list of counter methods and every time you sit down to make a phone call etc. you look at the list so that your fears may be made irrelevant.
Next week, I will share some insights on Belief systems and how what we believe set the tone of how we proceed in all areas of our lives.
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“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.”